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Help! I’m an Alternative Bride who doesn’t want a Traditional Dress!

Alternative bride gown

Hey alternative, punk, steampunk, goth and indie brides I’m talking to you.

Wedding dress shopping is hard and dumb.  Trust me, I know. Last October, I got married.  I ended up with a very traditional dress and I hated it.  I still hate it. Other people’s opinions of what I should wear steered me away from what I wanted to wear.  I ended up having a lot of stress over the dress from the moment I spent too much on it to the moment I got married.

Guess what! That doesn’t have to happen to you!  I have some alternative options to the traditional dress as well as a couple of options if you do end up with a traditional dress.alternative bride - bethany

Think outside the Bridal Shop and inside the tickle trunk.  Hear me out, I’m not saying that you should go down to Party City and grab a bagged Harley Quinn costume, stick a veil on your head and call it a day. But you could consider a more romantic or medieval style gown. If you choose to go white you might even be able to appease the elders. You could try this Bethany Gown and still look bridal without wearing a layer cake

alternative bride - purpleSkip white completely.  I look ghostly pale and sickly in white and not in a cool goth way. But I look fantastic in wine (the colour not the beverage).  If I could redo my dress I might go for something like this Juliet Gown instead.


alternative bride - cincherTry separates.  Listen wedding dresses are stupid expensive at bridal shops and you probably won’t be able to wear it again (obviously Venus & Mars gowns are not included in that category). You could wear a white underblouse with a cincher and a princess skirt instead.  You would still have the bridal effect but you would have pieces that you could integrate into your everyday wardrobe.

If you have absolutely no choice in the matter and you end up with a traditional dress there are lots of things you can do to make it your own. I added a velvet cloak to my wedding dress.  I also got a half sleeve tattoo of an owl on my arm. Alternatively, you could add a cincher in your wedding colours over you gown to tone down the traditional look. But if you feel like the powers that be would take issue with cloaks, tattoos and cinchers, you can also wear crazy stompy boots as a compromise.

Listen, I know first hand that it’s hard to stand up to your parents, grandparents, partner, and in-laws when it comes to anything wedding related. It’s easy to say that it’s your day and you’re the only one who matters but it’s so much bigger than that.  You’re merging two families together and you want everyone to be happy.  At the end of the day though it’s about you and your partner coming together and that’s who people want to see. So stand up for what you want and let your dress reflect your personality.

In case you were wondering, I still had a super fun wedding.  In addition to my cloak and tattoo, I also got a second gown to change into after the ceremony. It was a black velvet Queen Anne so everything worked out in the end.

What did you wear to your wedding or what are you planning on wearing?  Let us know in the comments below.

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Devon Dale

Devon Dale

Lady Adventurer for Hire at Venus&Mars
Devon Dale is a twenty something Vancouverite.When she isn’t being a lady adventurer for hire she is at Venus & Mars selling you corsets, kilts and other steampunkery. She enjoys hula hooping, reading and yoga.When you see her in the store, mention the Doctor and she will squeal like a delighted child.
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